Some of our kids are angry. Especially after the COVID19 period. There is a lot of suppressed energy. Nobody can handle effectively so many changes during one year. But angry children are nothing new. They have always been around. And in theory, we should know how to handle them effectively. More reading here, here, here, here, …
Think deeper
Do not speed up, jumping from one idea to another. Take an idea and try to think about it. When you exhausted the things that come to mind, take a break. Then think again, and this time become creative. Think deeper. Read here, here, here, here, and here. Creativity on demand OK, the language I …
Reframe stress
Top performers do business while workaholics are busy. There is a huge difference. Do we allow stress to manage us, or are we capable of stress management? Quite often the difference between the two is our mindset. Here I want to focus on the mindset involved, not on the stress resilience or reframing skill. Read …
Own your choices
I am writing as much for myself as for the readers. Anna envies the quality of therapy my writing provides. Currently, in my forties, I am reevaluating my own life choices. Some of them I love more, some less. Being responsible for my choices, I am making peace with that responsibility. So I am making …
Mindful writing
Writers say that their writing is the best therapy. How can this therapy be further nuanced and improved? Can writing take you beyond curing and into the domain of bliss? Can everyone write this way? Why writing cures? There are several therapeutic mechanisms in writing. Self-expression via a medium. We can confront our thoughts and …
Accept the weird with a positive attitude
The science of humor is a serious business. Humor makes us more positive and resilient. Clowns are used for therapy and funny animals may improve your well-being. I take humor very seriously. Each year I write an article about humor and publish it on April 1st. Enjoy. More reading here, here, here, here, here, here, …
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Working and fighting for your future self
Career and personal growth are a sort of fight we should take, no matter how hard and what are the odds. Like everything goes in war and love. Yet, our future self is the least likely person to mobilize all of our energies. Why? What we can do to overcome this? Humble beginnings Like most …
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Conceptualized self: Are we perfect the way we are?
We are perfect the way we are. This is a mantra I hear and read very often, yet I fail to implement it in my way of thinking. Where is the catch? Why is it so easy to feel imperfect? Can we become perfect again, and if so, how? I feel flawed I am flawed. …
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The Epicurean way
The opposite of the stoic way is the Epicurean way. It is an equally powerful and still relevant position. Rather than focusing on doing the right thing in face of adversity, it may be easier to avoid unpleasant situations. Sure, this requires more knowledge and creativity, but I think it is totally worth the effort. …
Drafting the story of your life
At 45 I finally started to write my autobiography. Is it reasonable? What questions I should ask myself? What can you learn from me? More reading here, here, here, here, and here. Dante When Dante Alighieri wrote his books, he was 35 years old. The first section, the Inferno begins with the words “Midway upon the …